Life is a series of lessons and if we are attentive and properly prepared we have the opportunity to learn and grow. Some lessons are fun and easily learned, while others are a struggle to get through and take their toll on us. But, as in nature, it is often the struggle to succeed that strengthens us and prepares us better for future challenges. When a young chick breaks free of its shell it is strengthened and prepared to face life, if you were to help the young chick break out of its shell it would be too weak to survive.
Facing the loss of my son-in-law, Joe Deak, to cancer on December 5, 2011 was the start of one of those lessons which has been a huge struggle for me and many others. From the time Joe was first diagnosed less than 2 years ago we learned to appreciate even the most common day to day moments we were priveleged to share. Joe taught us by example to live your life to its fullest and be thankful for every moment, even in the midst of so much pain and suffering.
I am still learning how to live my life without regrets - this is not to say I do not regret Joe's death at such a young age, but it does mean I am learning to take advantage of the time I have right now and prioritize my life around those I love. When Joe passed from this life I was able to reflect and realize I had no regrets - I had spent precious time creating memories for a lifetime with Joe, I shared with Joe those memories of life with him which I will always treasure, I told Joe how I felt about him and his family, and I committed to Joe I would do all within my power to watch over his family while keeping memories of him alive.
Joe, Domani and Anne Deak
In the midst of much sorrow, I have found an inner joy as I have begun to learn this lesson: Do not let opportunities pass you by which you will later regret not having taken advantage of them, and do not regret the circumstances which affect your life which you could not control or change.
But enough of my rambling, please take a few moments and share your thoughts. More importantly, take time now so you too will be able to say: "I am living my life now so I will have no regrets"
